Monday, September 2, 2013

Trust (Part 5)

Sometimes your heart is to life; as a kid is to his last ride at Disney World.

Maybe you can relate to this theme park experience:
Its the end of the day. You’re tried but not done; hot but still happy; excited but exhausted. Then your parents say, “the park is closing soon…time for one more ride.” Your head starts to swim! Its exciting to think that you can go on Mr Toad’s Wide Ride one more time… Space Mountain… But wait… what about the gift shop and that (what was it?) one more toy that you didn't get because it was too big to carry around the park all day. There are too many choices... and you just aren't ready for the day to end! Excitement and Disappointment collide in the explosive chemistry of Overwhelming.

New job, new town, new friends… Means leaving old friends, good memories and favorite places. Change is scary! Life can feel like one big juggling act. Like Joshua in the Bible, you wish could stop the sun and freeze time. There are so many amazing and beautiful moments in life... That you want to lock them in place and capture them like some marvelous work of art. But that’s not life. Life can be as beautiful as a Monet painting; as moving as a Michael Curtiz film; as frightening as a Shakespeare tragedy; and as passionate as a Rodin sculpture. Some times you are afraid to move on because you liked what you had... 
What’s unique about life? What sets it apart? 
Life moves forward. 
It is not a static work of art. It is fluid...
Trust yourself to move with it...
You could find that leaving something you liked... 
makes room for something you LOVE.

Trust (Part 4)

Love, Lust, Romance, Passion, Happiness, Hedonism, Joy, Desire,
...All the things we secretly covet; And the very things we run from. So, often I hear you say, 

"I'm not sure..."

"This is too good to be true..."

"I feel uncertain about..."

"There are too many questions..."

"I just don't know..."

"There are so many reasons..."

"I want to know for sure..."

I can be as jaded as anyone. Heart break SUCKS. No one wants to feel the...
Pain, Rejection, Loss, Grief, Sadness, Heartache, Distress, Longing.

Women fancy few things more than jewelry. For some its the latest designs;  for others its the "retro" antique. It may be a particular variety of gold or silver. It may be a certain stone of their birth or a  New Age purpose. It may be the hand crafted variety. Whether its the price tag or sentiment; the precious shiny bits thrill most women.

In the more elite specialty boutiques the most expensive items are kept under lock and key. Often they are more fortified than they are displayed. An aureate glass case and staid salesperson guard the treasures.  You have to wonder how this decreases the odds of the trinkets selling. After all, a person can't simply pick up a gorgeous necklace, fasten it on, then fall in love with the prize while admiring it in the mirror. In this case you have to wait until the sales person allows you the experience. Sometimes in life you need to reach out, grab it and try it on for size.

Conventional wisdom, thinking too much, trying too hard, and protecting yourself gets in the way. Are you keeping your heart locked away? If so, you may not get your heart broken, but you also won't know the unbridled joy of letting someone steal it.

I am in no way suggesting that you plop your heart on the downtown card table between a greasy hotdog vendor and smarmy 3-card monte dealer. I'm not suggesting that you carelessly trust anyone and everyone. The HUGE difference between being care-less and care-free is as vast as the difference between Miley Cyrus and Cyrus Cassells.

I advocate not for care-LESS-ness, but a little more care-FREE-ness.

Once again... Trust Your Self to Trust.

Trust (part 3)

Most often the largest impediment to trust is a fear of failure:

Broken hearts, deadlines passed, failed relationships, missed opportunities… You could fill the bed of a Dodge Ram 3500 with all my mistakes. Thank God for people like The Real House Wives of Atlanta and Charlie Sheen to help us feel like we aren't so bad off. At least I don’t screw up as much as that guy…  Wait that guy is rich.
Really! Mistakes are just the excuses our teachers use to hand out grades. The kids with the most wrong answers fail. The kids with most right answers become professors… And professors get to determine all the wrong answers for the next generation of students. It’s a vicious cycle; like we are addicted to perfection. Our teachers tell us “this is right and that is wrong!” We have become a culture that worships experts. It’s like society is Bobby Brown and we are Whitney Houston. We just keep wasting our lives trying to make society happy.... ‘til we're so badly beaten we give up and OD. Yeah I said IT… What too soon?
Seriously: if Columbus, Galileo, and the Wright Brothers had shut up and listened to the experts our world would be the flat, center of the universe with no Red-Eye to Vegas. Where is the fun in that? What if Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr. and Nelson Mandela had been good little “niggers” and sat down & shut-up? What if Shakespeare, Picasso, and Anna Pavlova had been afraid to take a chance? Was it wrong for them to risk failure? Where would our world be if we didn't take chances?
Amazingly we beat ourselves up for making mistakes, when it is those very mistakes that help us learn. The scientific method is all about TRIAL AND ERROR. If we approach life as an experiment and not a recipe.... we just might take a bite out of something delicious. New ideas and experimentation prevent the doom of mediocrity.
NOW go forth and SCREW THINGS UP!!!

If you don't believe me listen to the guys in these videos. One is writer and the other a professor. They are Experts!