Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Pushing the Envelope

Pushing the envelope, hedonism, out of the box, alternative, divergent, fetishist, open-minded, adventurous, kinky…

There are a myriad of euphemisms people use when their sex life is… Well… Out of the ordinary. Thanks to internet porn, Sex in the City, L-Word, Califonication, Big Love, Girl With a Dragon Tattoo, and 50 Shades of Grey things that were considered deviant 20-30 years ago are now topics at your average dinner party. And now Shia LaBeouf (seriously the kid from Even Stevens) gets it on in the new movie Nymphomaniac. Times have changed! Does that really surprise us after other former child celebrities Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan had their bi-sexual moments. Sex is out: Out of the Closet, Out of the Box and Far Out there.

Oral sex was the taboo of the 1970’s; is anyone old enough to remember Deep Throat, the movie that turned XXX into porno chic? Anal sex was the taboo of the 1980’s. Homosexuality was finally normalized in the 1990’s; at least in Europe on the West Coast of the U.S. Threesomes were all the rage in the new millennium. What now? What is this decade's decadence? Polygamy, swinging, and polyamory are getting a lot of attention these days. Are couples ready for this? Some say, “Yes, please.” Most say, “NO! Not yet.” There will be time to get to those new taboos. Don’t push the envelope too far too fast. For now, its time to get caught up to the new to the new millennium.  

What is a monogamous couple to do? How do you navigate this era where sex is becoming the new final frontier. NASA has retired the space shuttles. Sorry, trekkers but it looks like space exploration is on hold for now. If you want to “Boldly go where no one has gone before…” the adventure might be right there in your own bedroom, or at least, “it’s made in a Hollywood basement.” Come on, everyone’s doin’ it. Not really, but at least they are talking about it. They want to do it. You know you want to be one of the brave and the bold.

An upcoming series vignettes will show how monogamous couples are navigating this once forbidden territory.